Short Tempered.......... Huh???????

Many of us don't consider anger as a real problem. I say Anger is a real problem if you can't control it at any cost. At the same time we should understand that anger is a natural process that allows us to express our strong emotions to adapt. It is not a bad thing and it should be expressed or let out of you. Suppressing anger and loosing control of it are the two extremes you have to take care of. Otherwise you will definitely face mental and physiological problems in due course. Anger acts as a combine force of both emotional and physiological changes. You get emotionally aggressive which results in release of hormones like Adrenaline preparing your body for a fight. 

Anger is an active process which involves lot of energy. The sudden wave of this energy you get is turn to taking out on someone or something. That's why we often scold others or hit a wall. But this is not good at all. The other way is no matter how hard you want to let go of your anger you suppress it until next time. These situations often turn into grudges that become the first steps of revenge. But all the same this is not a problem at all for those who are not short or hot tempered. But if you think or feel like you cannot control your anger you better think of a way to control it.

Why do you think you get angry????

Start with asking the question why. Think of situation where you lost control and identify the reasons. It may be a person or something that you greatly dislike or even something that insults you etc. Remember to explore into your past events in a time you are feeling good because otherwise you will feel everything bad. 

Try one of these....

Not everyone has the same reason to be angry so the positive things you can do when you are angry are not the same. However the following activities are considered to be most effective. As a start try one or two of them.

• Deep breathing and counting 1 to 10 back and forth.
• Trying a non competitive sport
• Closing eyes and trying to meditate
• Shouting and screaming in a private space alone
• Banging your fists into pillow
• Running
• Listening to slow music

Apply "What if I" method in long term

The above mentioned activities can be helpful for immediate angers. But in the long run you have to practice a good attitude towards not loosing your temper. Often meditation helps to stay calm and open your mind to problems. So you can start a good technique in meditation like breathing technique or meditating while listening to slow music. 

The other effective method is to apply "what if I" theory. Think of you as the person who will be subjecting to all the scolding when you get angry. If you are that person then obviously you don't want to get scold or abuse or hit. 

If you still feel like your temper rising, the best thing is to walk away. Give some time to work out your relationship with the person you are getting mad very often. Talk with them. If none of these are working, avoid conversation. 

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