Understanding is probably one of the most hardest things in this world. I know I sound pretty lame because all along our lives what we do is understand. Understanding the meaning of a simple word, understanding the nature of an animal and understanding the life, these are from the basics to the advanced levels yet perhaps the most advanced form of understanding comes when you are in love. They say we can never survive without water. Just like water, understanding should be there for a stronger and a stable relationship. Not only what is between two lovers but the relationship between a father and a son, a teacher and a student and an employer and an employee, they all revolve around understanding. So it is pretty important that you do understand.
We judge people. We make mistakes but mostly we do not try to resolve ourselves, to understand what we did were wrong. I once remember when I was a lil kiddo, my class teacher told me, "If you do wrong once you are forgiven, but you have to understand the consequences so that you don't repeat it." I never understood this while I was a young kid but now I do. It's the same theory you have to apply when you are in love. I have seen most of the couples in love falling in and out of love through the years. Some say they are simply fed up. Others claim that their partners were too harsh or they are strangers now. But if you think through you'll see the problem stands with the understanding. So here are few of the essentials we think you need for a better understanding and for a better relationship. You are welcome to add more to the short list.1. HABITS
What is the first thing in the morning you expect when you get up? For me it's my bed tea. Not only for me but for many of us it's the same. You see, a simple habit like having a bed tea first thing in the morning cannot be changed all of a sudden but comes with a life time of unintentional practice. It's all the same with others as well and that's why we call them habits. Just like you have habits your significant other has habits too. Sometimes these could be stressful to you or some of your habits may cause your partner some disturbances. Whichever, you can talk with them about those rather than point your finger and wrinkling your nose. Adjust yourself because you can't let a habit ruin your relationship now, can you?
2. COMMUNICATION
Researches say that after two years or so couples eventually loose their communication. This is very bad for relationships. Especially when the partners don't really have time to spend with each other. Make sure you at least allocate 10 minutes to fill in you partner about your day, what you think etc. If you run out of topics just grab some general knowledge like weather, neighbours and before you even know you will find a way to plant a kiss or two... But please make sure you don't irritate your partner or scold them otherwise things could turn pretty bad, you know what I mean. Communication allows you to understand your partner more than you think. For example if you talk about an accident that involved a baby, you can pretty much get an idea how your partner reacts to baby in danger because the story, reaction are spontaneous and genuine. (most of the time)
3. SPICE UP
Spice up includes all the other aspects of your relationship to keep it fresh and alive. Dating, sex, love etc and even the boring things like exercises, jogging, driving can be spiced up. Spending time with your partner is essential because the more you get to know about their lifestyles, hobbies, habits it's easier to understand them. Perhaps that's why our parents understand each other well as with experience they know their partners. So involve your partner in most of the things you do. You can jog together, go to work together, do home chores together, watching what you like/ your partner likes together, cycling together well the list can go on. Keep changing what you do to avoid getting bored. Plan trips and weekends to spend together. Visit a place you both have been but freshen up the experience. Be creative is all you have to do.
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